Connect with us

News

Why Many Young Nigerian Men Prefer ‘Baby Mamas’ Over Committed Relationships

Published

on

By Gloria Ikibah

In Nigeria today, there’s a noticeable trend among many young men who shy away from committed relationships. Instead of settling down with one woman in marriage, they choose to have baby mamas. 

 
 
This change in attitude leaves many ladies confused and heartbroken, especially when these men initially show signs of wanting something serious.

Firstly these deceptive men start with ‘The Flirting Game’. Nigerian men are known for their charm, and many young men have perfected the art of wooing or gainingthe love of these ladies, especially as they know exactly what to say and do to make a lady feel special. From sweet words to constant attention, they paint a picture of a serious relationship. However, as time goes on, the promises of commitment and a future together start to fade. The relationship stalls, and instead of moving towards marriage, it either ends abruptly or shifts into a more casual arrangement.

Advertisement

 
Secondly, One major reason for this behavior is the ‘Fear of Commitment’. Many young men in Nigeria today are afraid of the responsibilities that come with marriage, keeping a home or even being a “Bread Winner”.The idea of being tied down to one woman for life, dealing with in-laws, and providing for a family can be overwhelming. They prefer the freedom that comes with having a baby mama, they get to enjoy fatherhood without the full weight of marital responsibilities.

 
Another reason is the Financial Pressures that comes with marriage, especially with the current economic situation in Nigeria, and this also plays a significant role.
 
 
Marriage in Nigeria is often seen as an expensive affair, from the traditional rites to the wedding ceremony. Many young men feel they are not financially ready to take on such a burden. On the other hand, having a baby mama seems like a more manageable option. They can provide for the child and the mother without the pressure of a full-blown marriage.

Also having a baby mama is one of the many ‘Influence of Popular Culture’ in Nigeria. Popular culture also glamorizes the idea of having a baby mama. Many celebrities and public figures in Nigeria have baby mamas, and it’s become somewhat of a fashion. Young men see this and think it’s the way to go. They want to enjoy the perks of fatherhood without the strings attached to marriage.

The Lady’s Perspective

Advertisement

For the ladies, this trend is frustrating. They enter into relationships with the hope of marriage, only to realize that the man they are with has no such intentions. It’s disheartening to invest time, love, and emotions into a relationship that has no future. Some end up becoming baby mamas themselves, often not by choice, but because they believed in the promises made by these men.

The preference for baby mamas over committed relationships among young Nigerian men is a reflection of various societal pressures and changing attitudes towards marriage. While some may see it as a way to avoid the challenges of marriage, it leaves many women feeling used and disappointed. 

 
 
As this trend continues to grow, it’s important for both men and women to have honest conversations about their intentions from the onset of any relationship.
Continue Reading
Advertisement
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

News

Just in: Finally, opposition leaders adopt ADA as coalition platform

Published

on

By

Opposition leaders under the aegis of Coalition Movement have adopted the All Democratic Alliance (ADA), and applied to the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) to register as a party ahead of the 2027 election.

The coalition’s application letter addressed to INEC chairman and dated June 19 was co-signed by the National Chairman of ADA, Chief Akin Ricketts and Protem National Secretary, Abdullahi Musa Elayo.

The letter which was stamped received by the office of the INEC chairman on June 20, 2025, was titled: “Application for registration as a political party” with ADA name and flag.

“We respectfully write to the Independent National Electoral Commission requesting the registration of our association, the All Democratic Alliance as a political party.

Advertisement

This is sequel to the decision taken by the Nigerian National Coalition Group to sponsor our association for full registration,” the letter read.

Details shortly…

Continue Reading

News

England goalie, Keating gets clean bill over nitrous oxide charges

Published

on

By

A court case against England goalkeeper Khiara Keating has been dropped nearly a year after she pleaded not guilty to possessing canisters of nitrous oxide.

The 20-year-old Manchester City goalkeeper was charged with possession of a Class C drug on 18 June last year after an investigation by Greater Manchester Police.

In July, Keating appeared at Manchester and Salford Magistrates Court alongside her mother Nicola Keating, 48, who also denied the same offence, and both were granted unconditional bail.

Greater Manchester Police has confirmed the case has been discontinued.

Advertisement

In a statement given exclusively to BBC Sport, Keating said: “I’m relieved the charges have been dropped. As I’ve always said, I did nothing wrong.

“It’s been a difficult time, but I’ve always known the truth. Now I’m just looking forward to focusing fully on the Euros and spending time with my family.”

Nitrous oxide was made a Class C drug under the Misuse of Drugs Act in November 2023.

Possession with the intention of wrongfully inhaling it for a psychoactive effect became an offence, but it is still possible to use the gas for legitimate reasons, such as in catering or pain relief during labour.

Advertisement

Keating has not made an appearance for England’s senior team yet but is part of the 23-player squad selected to compete at Euro 2025 next month.

She became the youngest player to win the Women’s Super League Golden Glove award last year, after keeping nine clean sheets in 22 league games.

Continue Reading

News

Appeal Court throws out APC’s case, affirms PDP’s victories in Osun council polls

Published

on

By

The Court of Appeal sitting in Akure, Ondo State, has dismissed the appeal filed by the All Progressives Congress (APC), affirming the legitimacy of the February 2025 local government elections in Osun State.

The judgement, delivered on Friday, 13 June 2025, upheld the victory of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) and its elected Chairmen and Councillors.

The panel of justices — Oyebisi Folayemi Omoleye, Peter Chudi Obiorah, and Hadiza Rabiu Shagari — held that the appeal lacked merit, had been overtaken by events, and constituted a mere academic exercise.

The suit, numbered CA/AK/15/2025, was filed by the Allied People’s Movement (APM), Babatunde Nurudeen Idowu, and the APC against the Action Peoples Party (APP), INEC, OSSIEC, APGA, and Prince Adegboye Famodun.

Advertisement

Justice Omoleye ruled, “Critically, this Court had earlier delivered judgment on 10th February 2025 in Appeal No. CA/AK/270/2022, involving basically the same parties and addressing substantially the same issues.

“The said appeal has been dismissed. What is more, the fresh Local Government elections conducted on 22nd February 2025 and the swearing-in of new Chairmen and Councillors have overtaken the substratum of this dispute. Relisting the appeal at this stage would serve no practical purpose.”

She added, “In sum, this application is not only procedurally incompetent and factually unsupported, it is also one rendered otiose by subsequent events. There is no longer any live controversy.

“The matter is, in every material sense, a fait accompli, “I therefore also dismiss the application.”

Advertisement

Justice Obiorah, in a concurring judgement, declared, “Of course, the dismissal of the appeal means that there being no existing appeal against the judgment of the lower court, the said judgment stands as the authority defining the state of affairs as it regards the status of the officers of the various Local Government Councils in Osun State.”

He also addressed the issue of contempt, saying, “However, the issue of violation of the orders of the lower court and the alleged contempt is the 3a Respondent/Applicant’s interpretation of the action of the 3d Appellant/Respondent with respect to their treatment of the judgment of the lower court, particularly after the dismissal of their appeal by this Court on 13/1/2025.

“The said contempt is ex-facie curiae. In INEC & ANOR v. OGUEBEGO & ORS (2017) LPELR-42609(SC) (Pp. 10-12 paras. F), the highly revered and cerebral, Chima Centus Nweze, JSC (of blessed memory) stated.”

Reacting to the judgment in an X post, PDP welcomed the ruling, describing it as a confirmation of the people’s mandate and a defeat for political desperation.

Advertisement

The party said the Certified True Copy of the ruling had “affirmed that the Court has dismissed APC’s appeal and affirmed Chairmen and Councillors elected in the 2025 Local Government Election as the duly elected council officials in Osun State.”

“The Presiding Judge, Oyebisi Folayemi Omoleye in her ruling stated that since a fresh election has been conducted and new Chairmen and Councillors have been sworn in, there is no controversy anymore,” PDP added.

Continue Reading

Trending

Copyright © 2024 Naija Blitz News