Nollywood actress Iyabo Ojo has launched a scathing attack on social media critic Martins Vincent Otse, popularly known as Verydarkman (VDM), describing his behavior as a result of poor parenting and calling out his mother for failing him.
In a candid and emotional post on her Instagram page, the actress lashed out at VDM’s toxic behavior, which she attributes to a lack of love, care, and stability in his upbringing.
According to Iyabo Ojo, the social media critic’s actions are driven by unresolved anger and pain stemming from his childhood. She suggested that his mother’s inability to nurture him properly, combined with her dependency on his ex-husband, contributed to VDM’s manipulative and narcissistic behavior.
In her post, Iyabo Ojo shared her reflections on VDM’s past, noting that he had to fend for himself at a young age, even resorting to stealing to survive. She expressed sorrow over the hardships he faced, questioning how his mother could have allowed such a traumatic experience. Ojo wrote, “I’ve gained a deeper understanding of your behavior, and I must say, it’s quite sad. It seems like your upbringing lacked love, care, and stability. Hence, your toxic narcissistic behavior. Your parents failed to provide you with a nurturing environment, leading to unresolved anger and pain.”
She went on to address VDM’s accusations, claiming that his frustration is misdirected. “Instead of directing your anger toward those responsible, you’ve chosen to lash out at successful women and men. Your anger and frustration are misplaced, and it’s time to acknowledge the root cause,” she wrote.
Iyabo Ojo also called out VDM’s mother, whom she referred to as the “president” among failed mothers. She questioned her actions and the lack of initiative in raising her son, especially in light of his troubling behavior. “Mama Vincent, your lack of initiative and dependence on your ex-husband is concerning. Why didn’t you make continuous attempts to find out whose farm your son stole potatoes or chickens from to feed?” Ojo asked, emphasizing the missed opportunities to provide a stable environment for her son.
The actress further criticized VDM for projecting his anger onto others, particularly successful people, instead of addressing the root of his issues. “Vincent, your mother failed to provide you with a stable and loving environment, left you for the streets, and you projected it on us; why?” she wrote, adding that the social critic’s manipulation and deceitful nature are a direct result of his upbringing.
In a final message to VDM, Iyabo Ojo urged him to forgive his parents in order to heal and find peace. “VDM, free your heart from hate by first forgiving your parents so that you can find peace,” she concluded. She also sarcastically remarked that VDM’s obsession with her name proves it lives “rent-free” in his head.
The actress’s post has sparked a flurry of reactions on social media, with many defending her stance while others have criticized the personal nature of her comments. Regardless, Iyabo Ojo’s message appears to be a call for self-reflection, urging VDM to confront the pain from his past rather than project it onto others.