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If you want your child to respect you as they get older, say goodbye to these 7 habits

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By Francesca Hangeior

There’s a clear line between earning your child’s respect and simply expecting it because you’re the parent.

This line lies in the habits we exhibit. Our kids pick up on these habits, and as they grow, they either respect us more or less because of them.
If you want your child to respect you as they get older, there are certain habits you need to let go of.

In this article, we’ll be exploring 7 of these habits that could be standing in the way of gaining your child’s respect.

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1) Being overly authoritative

Maintaining discipline is crucial when raising children, but there’s a thin line between discipline and dictatorship.
Often, parents fall into the trap of establishing an overly authoritative environment. We might think it’s the best way to maintain order, but in the long run, it can lead to a lack of respect.

When children feel like their voices are not heard, they start seeing their parents as oppressors rather than mentors. Don’t get me wrong, setting boundaries is important. But it’s equally key to allow your child some autonomy. Let them make decisions and learn from their mistakes.

This way, your child will not only respect you more as they grow older, but they’ll also develop valuable life skills.

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2) Not practicing what you preach

This one hit home for me. I remember how my daughter used to love drawing. One day, she drew on the wall, and I scolded her for it. Yet later that week, she saw me marking measurements on the wall for a new painting.
She was confused and asked me why I could draw on the wall and she couldn’t.
That day, I realized that children learn more from our actions than our words. It dawned on me that if I wanted her to respect the house rules, I had to abide by them too.

Letting go of this habit will not only earn you your child’s respect but also help them understand the importance of integrity and consistency. After all, we can’t expect them to respect us if we’re not respecting the rules ourselves.

3) Dismissing their interests

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Did you know that by the age of three, children start developing their own interests? These interests can range from dinosaurs and princesses to even complex things like the solar system.

When parents dismiss or belittle these interests, it can be quite discouraging for a child. It sends a message that their passions aren’t important.
But if you take an active interest in what your child enjoys, you’re showing them that their thoughts and feelings matter to you. It helps them feel validated and respected.

4) Neglecting promises

Promises to a child are like law. When we keep our promises, we show them that we are reliable and trustworthy. But when we break them, even for seemingly small things, it can shake their trust in us.

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Think about it, if you promised to take your child to the park over the weekend but you end up cancelling, it sends a message that your commitments aren’t important.
Keep in mind, our actions set a precedent. If we don’t honor our commitments, how can we expect our children to honor theirs?

So make a conscious effort to keep your promises, no matter how small they may seem. It’s a simple step towards building respect and trust with your child.

5) Avoiding difficult conversations

When my son first asked me about the concept of death, I was taken aback. It was a topic I was not prepared to discuss with him. I initially tried to skirt around the question, but he was persistent.

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Eventually, I realized that if I didn’t discuss these difficult topics with him, someone else would. And they might not explain it in a way that’s appropriate or sensitive.

Avoiding tough conversations can create a communication gap between you and your child. They may feel that they can’t approach you with serious or sensitive issues.
By being open and honest, even when the topic is uncomfortable, you show your child that they can trust you with anything. This openness fosters respect and encourages a deeper connection with your child.

6) Always solving their problems

As parents, it’s instinctual to want to protect our children from hardship and solve problems for them. But doing this all the time can hinder their ability to learn problem-solving skills on their own.
When we jump in to fix everything, we inadvertently send the message that we don’t trust their capability to handle situations. This can impact their self-esteem and affect the respect they have for us.

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Instead, guide them towards finding solutions rather than providing them outright. This not only helps them become independent thinkers but also strengthens their respect for you as they see you as a mentor rather than a fixer.

7) Not showing them respect

This is perhaps the most critical point. If you want your child to respect you as they get older, you must first show them respect.
Respect their time, their feelings, their thoughts, and their space. Teach them that respect is a two-way street.
By treating your child with the respect they deserve, you model the behavior you wish to see in return. It’s a fundamental principle of mutual respect that can transform your relationship with your child.

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Ooni welcomes baby girl with Olori Oluwatosin

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The Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi, has welcomed the birth of a baby girl with his wife, Olori Oluwatosin Ogunwusi.

This is contained in a statement on Sunday in Ile-Ife by the Ooni’s Senior Media Officer, Mr Sodiq Lawal, on behalf of the Director of Media and Public Affairs, Mr Moses Olafare.

Olafere expressed gratitude to God for the safe delivery, describing the newborn as a divine blessing to the House of Oduduwa.

According to him, the Ooni thanked Almighty Olodumare for His grace and faithfulness, which made the successful delivery possible.

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“The Royal Father prayed that the newborn princess will grow in wisdom, grace, honour and divine favour throughout her lifetime.”

He added that both Olori Oluwatosin and the baby princess were in excellent health.

He quoted the Ooni as further praying for God’s continued protection over the royal family and for enduring peace, prosperity and abundant grace for the House of Oduduwa.

The Ooni wished the newborn princess a purposeful, honourable and fulfilled life under God’s guidance.

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10th Senate processed over 1,000 bills in three years – Plang

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Chairman of the Senate Committee on Labour, Employment and Productivity, Diket Plang, has said the 10th Senate has processed more than 1,000 bills in its first three years in office, with over 200 already signed into law by President Bola Tinubu.

Plang, who represents Plateau Central Senatorial District, said the upper chamber had also adopted several resolutions through motions and carried out extensive oversight of Ministries, Departments and Agencies (MDAs), describing the period as one of the most productive in Nigeria’s legislative history.

Speaking in an interview to mark the third anniversary of the 10th Senate, the lawmaker said the chamber’s committee system had also enabled lawmakers to closely monitor government performance and budget implementation.

“At the moment, the Senate has had over 1,000 bills. About 900 have passed either second or third reading, and we have over 200 bills that have been signed into law,” he said.

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“So, for me, there is a lot of achievement in terms of making laws. We have had very important motions with beautiful resolutions and sufficient oversight functions as far as the first three years of the Senate are concerned.”

“Each of the ministries, departments and agencies brings its proposals during budget defence, and you go back to find out what has been achieved and what has not been achieved. It helps us know what government has been able to do,” he said.

On the recently passed State Police Bill, Plang commended President Bola Tinubu for supporting what he described as one of Nigeria’s most difficult but necessary constitutional reforms.

He argued that creating state police would strengthen intelligence gathering because officers recruited from local communities understand the language, culture and terrain better than officers deployed from other parts of the country.

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“The locals know the language, they know the terrain, they know the culture of where they are policing. Information gathering and rapid response to criminality will improve significantly,” he said.

The senator also dismissed fears that governors would abuse state police, insisting that constitutional safeguards and oversight by the National Police Council, National Assembly and State Houses of Assembly would prevent excesses.

“No governor will employ people from his community and ask them to oppress their own people. There are oversight mechanisms that will check abuse,” he said.

He explained that although the bill had passed both chambers of the National Assembly, it still requires approval by at least 24 State Houses of Assembly before it can be transmitted to the President for assent as part of the constitutional amendment process.

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Plang added that the reform would improve Nigeria’s police-to-population ratio through fresh recruitment across the states while creating employment opportunities for thousands of young Nigerians.

Commenting on the recent xenophobic attacks against Nigerians in South Africa, Plang urged both governments to pursue diplomacy rather than retaliation.

He said, “It is unfortunate that brothers are turning against one another. There should be immediate engagement between the Nigerian and South African governments. Rather than retaliation, both countries should sit down and resolve these issues as brothers.”

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Tinubu’s Remarks On Flyovers Not Directed At Oborevwori – Waive

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Member representing Ughelli North, Ughelli South and Udu Federal Constituency in the House of Representatives, Rt. Hon. (Revd.) Francis Ejiroghene Waive, has said President Bola Tinubu’s recent remarks cautioning state governments against constructing unnecessary flyovers were not directed at Delta State Governor, Rt. Hon. Sheriff Oborevwori.

Waive, in a statement, argued that the flyovers completed and those under construction in Delta State were necessitated by persistent traffic congestion in their respective locations, adding that the projects were undertaken after due consideration of the state’s infrastructure needs.

According to him, the Federal Government had, on several occasions, acknowledged Delta State’s strides in road infrastructure and flyover construction, alongside other developmental achievements, before similar projects gained momentum in other states.

He maintained that Governor Oborevwori had pursued infrastructure development without neglecting key sectors of the state’s economy, insisting that the administration had continued to invest in roads, bridges, healthcare, education and social welfare programmes.

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“The flyovers constructed and those currently under construction by Governor Sheriff Oborevwori are absolutely necessary. Deltans can testify that they are all located in areas where severe traffic gridlock is a regular occurrence,” Waive said.

The lawmaker dismissed criticisms of the projects by opposition figures, describing them as politically motivated and disconnected from the realities on the ground.

He expressed confidence that the governor’s performance would earn him another term in office, saying residents of the state remained committed to the continuation of the administration’s M.O.R.E. Agenda in synergy with President Tinubu’s Renewed Hope Agenda.

Waive urged Governor Oborevwori to sustain the pace of infrastructure development through the construction of more roads, bridges and flyovers, while expanding social investment programmes aimed at improving the welfare of the people.

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He also congratulated the governor in advance on what he described as his expected victory in the 2027 governorship election, expressing optimism that the administration would continue to deliver democratic dividends across the state.

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