Nigerian reality TV star and former Big Brother Naija winner, Phyna, has responded strongly to the backlash surrounding her decision not to have children.
Phyna had earlier sparked conversations online after stating that she would rather raise pets than become a biological mother, a comment that quickly drew criticism from social media users who questioned her stance.
Reacting to the wave of insults, the actress and influencer described the judgment as unfair and accused many Nigerians of holding outdated beliefs about womanhood and motherhood. 
She expressed frustration over how people rushed to label her a failure simply because she chose not to have children, insisting that her decision is personal and rooted in her life experiences.
According to her, her childhood played a major role in shaping how she views parenting, revealing that she is afraid of becoming the kind of parent she had while growing up.
Phyna explained that the fear of repeating painful patterns from her upbringing has made her unwilling to bring a child into the world unless she feels emotionally ready for that responsibility.
She said she would rather remain child-free than risk becoming a parent she herself would not have wanted.
“Dumb country people, so me not wanting a child is what makes me a failure and resulting to all this insults na… y’all brains is still stuck in the 60’s era,” she wrote.
She added that many critics fail to understand the emotional reasons behind such decisions and simply judge based on societal expectations.
“Me wey dem born how them take care of me. I don’t want to bring a child in. I’m scared of becoming a parent like the one I had… and that’s on period,” she stated.
Her comments have since triggered mixed reactions online, with some people supporting her honesty and right to make personal life choices, while others insisted that motherhood remains an important part of womanhood.
The debate continues to generate strong opinions, especially around issues of parenting, trauma, and the pressure society places on women regarding marriage and childbirth.
