A Nigerian man has taken to social media, sharing an emotional story about how he brought his wife to Europe after spending significant money on processing her visa and other related expenses, only for her to leave him for a foreigner.

In a video that is currently trending on X, formerly known as Twitter, the man is seen in tears, urging men not to bring their wives from Nigeria to Europe, citing his experience as a warning.

He explains how his wife left him to pursue a relationship with a foreigner after all his sacrifices.

He advised men to marry women who are already living abroad rather than returning to Nigeria to marry, emphasizing that many women only seek marriage as a way to escape poverty.

In the video, he pleads with men, using his own situation as an example.

Part of his statement reads: “Men in Europe, I beg you, find a woman there. Find an African woman abroad and marry her.”

“If you go to Nigeria to marry and bring her abroad, many of these women don’t have the intention to stay with you. They just want to escape from poverty.”

The full video is attached to this article, where viewers can hear his message in full.

Meanwhile, concerned individuals have flooded the comment section, sharing their thoughts on his predicament.

See some reactions below:

@wedowhatwedo5: “Sad for him, same happens for men. That’s why a lot of men marry foreign women just to Japa. I pray we Don’t marry the wrong person.”

@TheCEO_Boss: “Konji de hol am. He should just go and carry ashawo, the thing hard? Abi he is a good husband. Anyway I feel for him because this sending of pictures, sending br3ast through pictures is not easy. Me personally I can’t date someone from another state talk more different country.”

@Gcity_Media: “These stories are heartbreaking. Except the person absolutely deserves it, we should try to be kind to people.”

@beneelohim7: “I heard from a conductor at Oshodi that the real reason for traffic in Lagos is because the spirits of old Okadas are holding a secret meeting at Third Mainland Bridge.”

@OlayiwolaTeajay: “Many people left the message and focused on the messenger, Una go learn one way or the other.”

In a surprising turn of events, a pastor from the End Time Messages church in Chiredzi has been mandated to pay child support after DNA tests confirmed he fathered two children with the woman whose wedding he conducted.

The marriage of Eunice Mururi and Farai Hatirarami crumbled after it was confirmed that Hatirarami is not the biological father of the children Fatai had believed were his.

Mururi recently took Pastor Vhetu to Chiredzi Magistrate Court, seeking US$700 in monthly child maintenance for her two children, aged 8 and 4.

In a surprising turn of events, Pastor Vhetu admitted in court to fathering the children but pleaded for a lower maintenance payment.

He argued that his income as a pastor comes primarily from tithes and offerings, often in the form of food hampers rather than cash.

Represented by Farai Chauke of F. Chauke and Associates, Vhetu claimed that he had no regular salary and could only afford 150 ZiG per child as maintenance.

Aside from his pastoral duties, Vhetu revealed that he is also a farmer and already has eight other children to support. He informed the court that he has no bank account, only an EcoCash account, and pledged to cover the children’s school uniforms and fees.

However, he controversially suggested that new clothes should only be bought in June or December, sarcastically stating, “only Elon Musk’s children receive new clothes every month.”

Magistrate Diana Musiiwa was unimpressed by Vhetu’s arguments, calling his offer “insincere” and ruling that he must pay US$175 per month for both children.

The case has left the community stunned, with many shocked by the pastor’s actions and the collapse of the marriage he once officiated.

Urologists have identified financial difficulty as one of the factors that could predispose men to risk of having premature ejaculation during sex.

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man has an orgasm and ejaculates earlier during intercourse than he or his partner would like.

Experts say premature ejaculation is a common problem that affects 30 percent to 40 percent of men.

According to the specialists, the stress and anxiety triggered by financial struggles could significantly impact sexual performance.

Speaking with PUNCH Healthwise, the physicians explained that financial stress could lead to anxiety, depression, and poor lifestyle habits, all of which have been linked to premature ejaculation.

According to a health website, Mayo Clinic, premature ejaculation occurs in men when semen leaves the body (ejaculates) sooner than wanted during sex.

While identifying early sexual experiences, sexual abuse, depression, and guilty feelings as some of the causes of premature ejaculation, the clinic added that erectile dysfunction, anxiety, and relationship problems are also some other factors responsible.

Speaking further on how financial struggles which many Nigerians are going through could affect their sexual performance; the urologists said this could worsen existing health conditions, making individuals more susceptible to premature ejaculation.

According to them, when men are under financial pressure, they often neglect their physical and mental health. This neglect, they noted, could manifest in various ways, including sexual dysfunction.

An urologist at the Federal Medical Centre, Abeokuta, Ogun State, Dr. Olaitan Adeyemi stated that economic hardship might lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as excessive alcohol consumption or smoking.

These poor lifestyle habits, he stressed, might worsen other existing factors that could lead to premature ejaculation.

According to Adeyemi, premature ejaculation is a complex condition requiring a multifaceted approach.

He explained that medical factors, such as neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, and prostate issues, could contribute to premature ejaculation.

He, however, noted that social factors, including stress, anxiety, and relationship dynamics, also play a significant role.

He stated that economic hardship could worsen premature ejaculation symptoms, adding that increased stress and anxiety affect men’s sexual performance.

“Financial struggles can lead to increased stress levels, which can negatively impact sexual performance. Economic instability can have far-reaching consequences on mental and physical well-being,” the specialist noted.

While stressing that economic hardship could affect men of all ages and backgrounds, the physician said premature ejaculation was not exclusive to any particular demographic.

He, however, noted that men in lower socioeconomic brackets may be more vulnerable due to limited access to healthcare and increased stress levels.

Adeyemi said family history, early sexual experiences, and traumatic events could predispose individuals to premature ejaculation.

He added that mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety, also increase the risk.

When asked if men with premature ejaculation could father a child, the physician explained that premature ejaculation had the potential to reduce the chances of successful conception and increase stress and anxiety, which might lead to erectile dysfunction.

He further said, “Premature ejaculation can have a profound impact on fertility, particularly by reducing the chances of successful conception. Moreover, the stress and anxiety that often accompany PE can potentially lead to erectile dysfunction, further complicating fertility issues.”

“However, you need to take note that premature ejaculation does not directly cause impotence. While impotence, also known as erectile dysfunction, and premature ejaculation can coexist, they are distinct conditions that require separate attention and treatment.

“Understanding the interplay between premature ejaculation, fertility, and erectile dysfunction is important for men struggling with these issues. By addressing the underlying causes and seeking proper treatment, individuals can mitigate the effects of premature ejaculation on fertility and improve their overall sexual health.”

The urologist urged men experiencing premature ejaculation symptoms to seek medical attention, stressing that early treatment could improve quality of life.

He added, “Recognisable symptoms that necessitate medical attention include persistent or recurrent premature ejaculation, difficulty controlling ejaculation, painful ejaculation, and blood in semen or urine.”

On his part, a Consultant Urologist, Dr. Taiwo Alabi, said healthy living and avoidance of smoking could help to improve a man’s sexual performance or libido.

He noted that the stop-start technique, which requires a man to stop sexual stimulation and return to it again after the sensation had passed, could likewise help to delay ejaculation.

Alabi said premature ejaculation happens when a man had an orgasm and releases semen within one minute of penetration, and is unable to control ejaculation during sexual intercourse.

He said, “Premature ejaculation is hinged on three components. First, the time that is considered as a cut-off is one minute. Anybody who ejaculates less than a minute from the time of ‘Intravaginal Ejaculation Latency Time’ has premature ejaculation.

“IELT means the time a man has an erection and penetrates the vagina of the woman to the time he releases. What is generally considered acceptable IELT ranges from about three to seven minutes, and what is considered a cut-off is one minute.”

The urologist continued, “The second component is its psychological impact. Premature ejaculation has a negative psychological effect on either the man, the partner or both of them, and the kind of effect it has on them might range from depression to withdrawal from sex and to loss of self-confidence. For some people, it can be that they are anxious each time they want to have intercourse.

“The third component is loss of control. Normal ejaculation is described in terms of control. When a man is having intercourse and is thrusting back and forth, there’s a time he will have intense pleasure, and he should be able to control his ejaculation. So, those three things are the components of premature ejaculation.”

“However, to improve your sexual performance, the first thing is to live healthily. If you live healthily, eat fruits, and vegetables and reduce your weight, you will be able to avert the risk factors,” Alabi advised.

Credit: PUNCH