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10 habits of unsuccessful people who never move forward in life

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1) Fear of taking risks
In the journey of personal growth and achievement, embracing risk is non-negotiable.

That’s why those who struggle to succeed tend to avoid anything risky. They’re afraid of failing, so they stick to what’s safe.

Now, embracing risks involves stepping out of your comfort zone and being willing to try new things, even if they might not work out.

Start by identifying areas where you feel hesitant or afraid to take action.

Then, gradually expose yourself to those situations and take small steps towards overcoming your fears.

2) Procrastination
I’ve been there, and I’m sure you have too.

It’s that moment when you have a task at hand, but the temptation to put it off for later is just too strong.

A classic example from my own life was when I planned to start a fitness regime.

I had the perfect plan in place, but I kept telling myself, “I’ll start from Monday” or “I’ll start from next month.”

This habit of mine, procrastination, is a common trait among unsuccessful people who don’t move forward in life.

They have plans, ideas, and dreams, but they keep waiting for the ‘perfect’ moment to start.

Unfortunately, that perfect moment never comes.

Let it sink in: procrastination is a thief of time and one of the surest ways to remain stagnant in life.

3) Lack of learning
The world is changing at a rapid pace.

In this dynamic environment, continuous learning is not just an option, it’s a necessity.

Yet, it’s all too common for those who fall short of their dreams to settle into a comfort zone post-formal education, convinced they’ve gathered all they need.

They close the door to growth, missing out on the boundless opportunities that learning brings.

But here’s the truth: for every successful individual, learning isn’t a phase—it’s a lifelong adventure.

They understand that knowledge isn’t static; it’s a dynamic force that propels them forward.

4) Negativity
Having a positive mindset can shape how we approach challenges and pave the way for success.

But some people, when faced with obstacles, tend to zoom in on the negative stuff.

They dwell on problems rather than brainstorming solutions, which can cloud their vision of the opportunities ahead.

This habit of seeing the glass half empty can zap their motivation and make it harder to move forward.

It’s like having a weight dragging them down when they could be soaring high.

5) Lack of goal setting

In life, setting goals is like plotting our course on a map—it gives us direction and purpose to navigate the journey ahead.

Sadly, it’s not uncommon for those who fall short of their aspirations to wander aimlessly—without a defined destination.

Here’s the thing: setting goals clarifies what you want to achieve.

It gives you a clear sense of direction and guides your actions towards your desired outcome.

Also, goals provide motivation by giving you something to strive for.

When you have clear objectives in mind, you’re more likely to stay focused and disciplined in pursuing them, even when faced with challenges or setbacks.

6) Avoidance of responsibility
Life’s a rollercoaster, packed with twists and turns.

We all stumble, face hurdles, and hit roadblocks along the way.

But here’s the kicker: people who’re struggling to reach their full potential tend to dodge responsibility like it’s a plague.

They point fingers at everything but themselves—blaming circumstances, people, or fate for their flops.

Sure, it’s cozy to shift the blame. But it’s a dead end.

Taking ownership is the key to learning, growing, and blazing ahead on your journey.

7) Fear of change
Change can be a daunting prospect.

I remember my first job switch. I had a comfortable position, familiar colleagues, and a routine I was used to.

The thought of walking away from it all and stepping into the unknown was terrifying.

This fear of change is a common trait among unsuccessful people.

They prefer to stick to the familiar, even if it’s not serving them well.

They resist change, choosing comfort over growth.

Yet, life is all about evolution and progress.

And progress is impossible without change.

8) Overvaluing comfort
Comfort is like a cozy blanket on a chilly day.

It lures us into a false sense of security, telling us how nice it is to stay put.

But let’s get real–your breakthrough happens outside your comfort zone.

Opting for comfort is a common habit among those who struggle to succeed.

They cling to familiarity, enduring jobs they despise or sidestepping difficult tasks because they’re daunting.

Though it feels like the safer route, this reliance on comfort can hinder progress.

It discourages risk-taking, stifles exploration, and keeps us stuck in place.

9) Lack of self-belief
Believing in oneself is a powerful catalyst for success.

It fuels our determination, drives our actions, and propels us forward.

However, unsuccessful people often lack this self-belief.

They doubt their abilities and potential, letting these insecurities hold them back from achieving their goals.

This lack of self-belief can be a significant barrier to progress.

It limits our willingness to take risks, try new things, and reach for our dreams.

10) Ignoring feedback
Feedback is like a mirror that shows us where we’re doing well and where we could do better.

But some people don’t like looking in that mirror.

They see feedback as criticism and get defensive.

This can hold them back from getting better at what they do.

Here’s the thing: taking feedback in your stride, even when you don’t like it, is all about keeping an open mind.

Instead of seeing it as a personal attack, try to view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Listen to what’s being said without getting defensive, and focus on understanding how you can use the feedback to improve.

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My wife has put on weight and I’m no longer attracted to her. What should I do?

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I’m in my early 50s and am starting to find my wife not sexually attractive any more. Over the years she has gradually put on weight to the point she now weighs more than me; I’m 6ft and normal weight for an athletic, active man. I’ve got mixed, conflicted feelings about it.

On a physical basis I don’t like it, but she’s now started walking with a different gait and I find myself disgusted and pitying her. On a medical basis, it can’t be good long term.

I have mentioned it in the past and asked her to make lifestyle changes, which last three to four weeks. It’s making me feel resentful and not respected. I feel as if I shouldn’t have to ask my wife to be a reasonable weight. But I’m simultaneously avoiding the issue because I don’t want to humiliate and upset her. How to address this?

Eleanor says: I’m going to set aside your concerns about your wife’s health. Partly because – as I’ve written before – there’s evidence people can be healthy regardless of their weight. Mainly though, it sounds as though the way this matters to you isn’t primarily to do with her health.

If it were, we should also be talking about her sleep habits, stress levels and carcinogen intake. It sounds like the way this matters to you is that you find her less attractive.

Long-term monogamy asks us to find one person attractive, instead of all others, in perpetuity. This is hard. We all change as we age, and maintaining a marriage will – if we’re lucky! – mean we’re still excluding all others when we’re liver-spotted and all out of collagen. Attraction shifts a lot in the intervening decades, and it’s OK to struggle with those transitions.

You say you feel “disgusted” and “not respected”. It sounds like weight is wrapped up with a lot of moralised failures for you; like you attribute laziness to her, slovenliness, disregard for how you experience her. This just isn’t a good inference. People’s weight changes for all kinds of reasons, especially as we age and our hormones change.

Why does her weight make you feel this way, rather than any other “lifestyle change” or feature of her appearance? Do you also feel you “shouldn’t have to ask” her to maintain her hair, her clothes? What about sleep, which is also a huge predictor of long-term health and possibly day-to-day attractiveness, too?

What if she someday feels disgusted and disrespected by your greying hair, your wrinkling skin, your loss of muscle?

It’s one thing to struggle with finding your partner attractive. It’s another to ascribe a failing to your partner in light of that; to feel contempt for them, or like they are beneath you. It will be vital for the viability of your marriage that you’re able to separate these feelings.

That’s true even purely from the standpoint of self-interest, too. Nobody is a bigger freak in the sheets and more excited to invest in attractiveness than somebody who thinks their partner worships them. And nobody tries to hide their body away and recoils from touch more surely than someone who can smell their partner’s contempt.

Glamour, sexiness, investment in yourself – these all require a degree of confidence that your effort will be worthwhile; that you won’t be humiliated by being judged and found wanting even with your red lipstick on. She will be able to tell that you feel disgusted by her. I promise you this will not lead her to aspire to being “less disgusting”.

Attraction waning is one thing. But don’t confuse that for a moral insight about your wife. If you cannot separate those feelings, you’d do her a kindness by leaving. But you may regret the conflation of appearance and moral value once your own body begins to change under you.

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I’m In Love With My Ex; He’s The Father Of My 3 Children And Not My Husband, Says Lady

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“My husband is such a good man but he’s not sw€€t in bed. It’s been 7yrs of our marriage & I don’t think I can continue with this marriage anymore…

I can’t tell him because I don’t want him to feel bad nor in any way hurt his ego, So, a year after our marriage, i met my ex. We dated in secondary school.

We never broke up, we were only separated by distance & the relationship later got sour. Somehow, we started seeing each other again, been going on for 6yrs now. But to be honest, the only reason

I started seeing my ex again in the first place was only to satisfy my sx_su@l needs but i later realized that am still very much in love with him & he loves me too..

But, now its really hard for me to leave my husband because he’s a good man. He’s been so nice to me & my family. When I met him that time, I had just lost my dad & things were so difficult for me & my family. But he saved us from hardship & poverty.

Sponsoring my brother’s visa & trip to Canada & helped me complete my education & even build a small house for mom in the village. Also opened up a business for her. It’s thanks to him that am a graduate & now working as a nurse.

Truth is, I really loved him back then.

With all the above mentioned, I feel for him. I don’t want to see him get hurt cos i know how much that he loves me.

But, Its obvious that am only with him now cos of pity. I love my ex so very much & he’s the father of our my 3 kids..

We wish to get married. Pls help me, how do i make my husband understand this without hurting his feelings.

I am 33yrs old, still a young woman & i also deserve a sw€€t love life including my s-xsu@l needs. Which, its obvious i can never get with my husband..”

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How Husband Infects Wife With HIV Five Months After Marriage

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A pregnant wife has been left in serious pain after her husband infected her with HIV just five months after marriage.

The unidentified lady recounted the emotional story in a post that was culled from a relationship platform.

She revealed that she got married to her husband in November, then she was HIV negative.

She noted that sometime in February she found out that her husband was having an affair and she confronted him about it.

He had broken off his communications with the lover, and the following month, she had gone for pregnancy test when other tests were also run.

She revealed that it was shocking for he to discover that she was HIV positive.

Read the full account below:

“I am in so much pain right now. I got married last year. Before marriage, I was negative and so was my husband. Just somewhere in December, my husband started seeing a young lady of about twenty-four years. He has saved her contact as Karen so I presume that’s her name.

I cautioned him about the sort Of messages he is exchanging with the lady but he got angry saying, I am reading meanings into the whole thing. He said the girl is a distant relative he met at one Of his aunties wedding in December blah blah blah and I let it slide. Early February, I figured my husband is having an affair with the lady. I became SO a. that I had to involved his mom.

After a long disagreement and misunderstanding between us, he said he is letting go of the lady which I believe he probably did. Mid Of March, I realized I was pregnant so I visited the hospital and it was confirmed that I was three weeks pregnant. Just this that I was three weeks pregnant.

Just past Monday I went to have some tests and guess what, I was confirmed positive. I doubted the results so I visited another hospital and it showed the same results. I called my husband to come have his own test that instant and yes, he has it. That was when I started weeping and

begging him to tell me the truth because just before we got married in November last year, we were both negative. We went to check together Sir. We even knew we will be negative so we didn’t panic.

Sir, my husband confessed to me that very moment that it could be the girl because they have had an encounter on a few occasions plus, he didn’t use but pulled out instead. He said she isbhe only lady he has been with since we got married.

Anyway, the girl has told him the truth that she already knew she was I-OV positive that’s why she insisted he uses a blah blah blah but he refused. Me I have left him in the marriage.”

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