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Intimate Affairs: Nigeria is full of Single Girls,

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By Funke Egbemode

What is going on here?

Am I the only one seeing it?

Why are our brilliant young women not finding husbands or is it the husbands that cannot find them?

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Single women who are doctors, engineers, senior bank executives, pilots, business owners (those ones are many), hardworking, beautiful, ready-to-mingle, mingling and coming up with nothing. Some of these successful women are not just financially stable, they are humble, well-mannered ladies. Why are the men looking away?

There is trouble in the marriage sector. Okay, that is not new. There will always be trouble in the place but we are able to do a Nigerian version of Jackie Collins’ The World Is Full Of Married Men. The single young men are there, just not ready. It is like being thirsty when you are surrounded with water. There are more men than women, or isn’t that what the statistics says?

These young men and their fine cars and fine shoes, well-manicured nails and smooth ways, why are they not getting married? Is it just the ‘work of the devil’ they want to do or what? Why are they just doing touch-and-go or at best graduating themselves into Baby Daddy class?

I broached the subject while with my close circle of friends at an evening hangout during the week and Uyi’s response stopped me in my tracks.

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‘It is all the fault of all these Sunday School teachers, really.’

Ah, how? How did Sunday School teachers get into this mix?

‘Don’t pretend you do not know that it is the churches that are teaching these poor girls that polygamy is ungodly. That is why the whole place is filled with girls looking for miracle husbands. What is wrong with them saying ‘I do’ to the married men who are toasting them? If each willing married man is allowed to take second and third wives, the single girls’ market will be depopulated. Polygamy is a form of marriage. It is a solution, not a problem.’

Uyi is a strange deacon, trust me. His teachings and lines of thoughts always manage to throw me. So, churches should now teach polygamy? A pastor’s daughter should go and become a second wife?

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‘A pastor’s daughter should stop complaining she is not married when she has received three marriage proposals this year alone. The pastor himself should stop frightening the single girls with ‘spiritual husband’ teachings. I do not know why we are all pretending that this polygamy-is-evil and second wives-are-demons teaching will find husbands for every single woman. It is not working. It will not work.’

Uyi’s ‘heresy’ is not one I am willing to follow but it is gaining grounds, sadly. A few single successful women who are tired of waiting have succumbed to temptation. A screaming biology clock can make you do things you never thought you could do. Who would have thought church girl, Anne would settle for a married man?

‘I had been dated and dumped. I had hoped and been disappointed. I had invested and lost. Then I had a fibroid surgery that scared me into action at 38. I was not being opened up to be delivered of a baby but to take out reproductive trash? Laid out in that hospital bed, recovering, not with a baby cot beside me jolted me.

I told myself I had had enough. I deserved to be happy. I could have died on that surgery table and it would not be because I was giving life to a baby! I decided that next toaster who fitted my paternity shopping list would just have to do. Unfortunately, when he showed up, he was married, but fortunately he was willing to take a new wife. I got pregnant. We opted for traditional marriage, of course and today we have two boys. He bought a flat for me eventually and we are doing well. Sure, it is not what I planned for myself but I am no longer alone or lonely. I am a mother with a man who cares for me.’

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The problem with settling for less than what you want is, there is a tendency to miss happiness and fulfilment. But then even those who married young and single men have many tales of woe. A desperate single woman attempting or hoping to marry a married man just might end up a permanent side chic with no recognition or status.

A mean man, single or married, is a mean man. An opportunist and predator won’t change his spots just because he is now older and married. If he was using women at 25 when he had no money or influence, he probably will do worse now that he is 55 and rich. A single and tired woman should and must have her wits around her if she decides to take this route. A married man looking for a distraction, easily accessible sex, even sex that he doesn’t have to pay for is not a partner with potential.

She must not see him as anything more than a distraction too. He is a gist partner, scrabble game partner and tension relief. Sperm donor, yes. Just take his sperm, make a baby and ask for nothing more, then there would be no problem in Paradise. Where does that leave the poor woman? Still desperate, lonely, feeling diminished and reduced.

Then there is the economic factor. A man who graduated eight years ago at 23 is today 31 years old. He just finally moved out of his parents’ place to a mini flat, near Lagos far from where he works. He is struggling to feed and transport himself to and from work.

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He is living from hand to mouth, hoping for a better paying job so he could move into a bigger apartment, buy a second-hand car and start living a life close to what he had planned for himself. Considering how long it took him to achieve a mini flat, you can imagine how long it would take him to get to that promised land, unless he gets an uncommon miracle.

My late husband and I paid just N4,800 per annum for our first home, a two-bedroom, spacious apartment in Olowora all those years ago. I did a quick check and that same size of apartment in that same location is now N3m per annum, with a smaller kitchen too!

How is a ‘casual’ graduate banker on N80,000 supposed to fund a decent apartment he can bring a wife into? The bank won’t give him a permanent employment. He has not found a better job. A king-sized mattress is N350, 000. A 55-inch television set of ‘unknown brand’ costs as much as N500,000. Even when they ‘japa’, they are living on credit and so much borrowed robes they can’t visit their parents for years.

The lives of today’s young men are hard and they are hardening the path of the single women. For instance, the female classmate of the guy who graduated eight years ago at 23 is also 31 with an uncooperative biological clock. If for instance, they are in a relationship, maybe since undergraduate days, how long is she supposed to wait for her struggling boyfriend to make an honest woman of her?

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In addition to having to deal with the hard choice of becoming a second wife or choosing to ignore her body racing towards menopause and waiting for her 80k-per-month boyfriend, there is still the hurdle of sailing through a sea of men who think women are too money-conscious, and are determined that they will not give any woman ‘shishi’. Nonsense, badly brought-up boys, those ones. These overgrown babies think it is women they hurt with this attitude, even.

According to Adedayo Oderinu, the Chief Executive Officer of Redio Afinju, a man who sees nothing wrong with sitting at the feet of another man to learn ‘how and if to give the women in his life money’ must admit that a lot had already started going wrong with his life.

‘If by the age that you can be addressed as a man, anywhere past 18, your world view is still so narrow that you need other people to help you define mundane things like caring for the people in your life, your parents failed.

‘If you are in any active relationship and your active contributions (especially financial), as leader of that relationship, ever becomes something you are legislating with your partner, you should not have a partner. You desire leadership of your relationship, but you want to debate whether or not you should care for them? Women should run very far from you!

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If at the age where you are ripe enough to have a relationship, you still are worried about getting returns from the care that you show your female partner, your life is not really working. Care for your partner is not a financial investment that you expect interest from. It is a duty, the duty of care. If the woman ever acts undeserving of it, say by poor character, which is open to definitions, you simply break up and move on. A man’s duty of care to his partner is a precondition for his passage into true manhood, not the maturation of his ‘preek’.’

Now, caught in the flood of predatory married men, irresponsible stingy ones and strugglers with low incomes, how exactly are we going to get the single girls married?
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Just in: FRSC Starts 2026 Nationwide Recruitment

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The Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC) has officially commenced its 2026 nationwide recruitment exercise, beckoning on qualified Nigerians to apply for various positions across its Officer, Marshal Inspectorate and Road Marshal Assistant cadres.

According to the Corps, the online application portal opened on Friday, July 3, 2026, and will remain accessible for four weeks. The recruitment exercise is completely free, with the agency warning applicants not to pay any individual or organization claiming to facilitate employment.

Interested applicants are required to submit their applications through the official FRSC recruitment portal at HERE

Available Cadres
The recruitment covers three major categories:

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Officer Cadre – Open to holders of B.Sc., BA, HND and other relevant professional qualifications.

Marshal Inspectorate Cadre – Available for candidates with qualifications such as ND, NCE and other approved credentials.
Road Marshal Assistant Cadre – Includes opportunities for eligible SSCE holders, artisans and drivers, depending on the position.
Required Documents
Applicants are advised to prepare the following before beginning their application:

National Identification Number (NIN)
Educational certificates
Birth certificate or age declaration
Recent passport photograph
NYSC discharge, exemption or exclusion certificate (where applicable)
The FRSC also advises applicants to use their personal email address and phone number during registration and to ensure all information provided is accurate. Shortlisted candidates will be required to present printed copies of their completed application forms during the screening process.

The Corps urged interested Nigerians seeking a career in the Federal Government to apply early in order to avoid heavy traffic on the recruitment portal before the application window closes.

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Finally, US Confirms Withdrawal Of Troops From Nigeria

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The United States has withdrawn the majority of its military personnel deployed to Nigeria for a joint counterterrorism mission in the Lake Chad Basin, while maintaining intelligence sharing and other security cooperation with Nigerian authorities.

Commander of US Air Forces in Africa, General Dagvin R.M. Anderson, announced the development during a virtual press briefing on the outcome of the African Chiefs of Defence Conference 2026.

He said the partnership between Washington and Abuja remained active, particularly in intelligence operations targeting the Islamic State (ISIS/Daesh).

According to Anderson, the specific mission that required the deployment of US troops has been completed, prompting the withdrawal of most personnel.

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However, he noted that the United States would continue providing intelligence assistance at the request of the Nigerian government.

“And so that operation in the Lake Chad Basin of Nigeria not only helped the countries in that immediate region; it also helps countries globally as that disrupts the ISIS network,” Anderson said.

“And so — and then we have withdrawn much of our forces that were just there for that operation, but are continuing the partnership that Nigeria has asked for to help continue with the intelligence sharing and the understanding that’s necessary to be able to prosecute these difficult tasks,” he added.

The US Air Force commander described Nigeria as a key regional partner with a capable military, saying the collaboration between both nations had produced notable gains in the fight against ISIS.

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He credited intelligence cooperation between the two countries for enabling an operation that eliminated the second-highest-ranking figure in the global ISIS network.

“I think there partnership that we’ve shown recently with Nigeria, where Nigeria’s a very capable and large country — it’s got a strong economy; it’s got a large, educated population; it’s got a very capable military.

“But there are things that we have learned in the counterterrorist fight over several years that we were able to assist and integrate with them to help them with their intelligence and help with the intelligence sharing that eventually led to a cooperative effort to where we were able to bring some unique capabilities that the U.S. brings and be able to prosecute together the number two leader within the ISIS or Daesh organization who is responsible for much of their global operations, their global media, and their recruiting”, he said.

Anderson said the operation underscored the effectiveness of intelligence collaboration over prolonged foreign troop deployments.

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“So I think as we go forward, that is an example of how we’re looking at engaging with partners to help them be more effective by only bringing unique U.S. capabilities that allow the partner to be effective in these fights,” he said.

He also called for deeper intelligence cooperation among African countries to tackle terrorism, drug trafficking and other cross-border crimes.

The US commander cited a recent multinational operation that intercepted a record 31-ton shipment of cocaine originating from South America and passing through the West African coastline, saying effective intelligence sharing made the seizure possible.

“I was able to coordinate through our interagency in the United States, through AFRICOM, and then notify some of the partners. And eventually it was a Spanish ship that interdicted the ship that had 31 tons of cocaine on it, and it turns out is the largest interdiction of drugs at sea that we’ve ever seen,” Anderson said.

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He added that sustained collaboration among African governments, international allies and private-sector stakeholders would be vital to confronting security challenges while fostering economic growth and attracting investment across the continent.

The United States deployed about 200 military personnel to Nigeria in February 2026 to assist with intelligence, surveillance and counterterrorism operations in the Lake Chad Basin as both countries expanded cooperation against ISIS and other extremist groups operating in the region.

The deployment came after US President Donald Trump redesignated Nigeria as a Country of Particular Concern and pledged increased American support for counterterrorism efforts.

On December 25, 2025, US forces carried out air strikes on two terrorist camps in the Bauni Forest, located in Tangaza Local Government Area of Sokoto State.

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The security partnership reached a major milestone in May 2026 when a joint US-Nigerian operation killed Abu-Bilal Al-Minuki, the second-in-command of ISIS, during a raid on his hideout in Borno State.

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Ogoni family demands justice for son arrested at age 14, jailed 18 years without trial

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An Ogoni family in Rivers State has instituted legal proceedings against the Federal Government, the Rivers State Government and the Federal Ministry of Interior over the alleged unlawful detention of their son, Gospel Kinanee, who spent 18 years in prison without trial after he was reportedly arrested as a 14-year-old boy.

The lawsuit follows Gospel’s recent release from custody after nearly two decades behind bars, a period during which he was allegedly denied his constitutional right to a fair hearing and access to legal representation.

Speaking during an interview with Arise News, Gospel’s elder brother, Paul Kinanee, narrated the family’s painful ordeal, describing the years of uncertainty as one marked by relentless searches, emotional trauma and devastating loss.News

According to him, Gospel disappeared one night in 2007, prompting family members to launch an extensive search across Rivers State. They visited several police stations, detention centres and correctional facilities in a desperate attempt to locate him, but every effort proved unsuccessful.

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Paul disclosed that the family even searched the Port Harcourt Maximum Security Custodial Centre, where Gospel was unknowingly being held, but officials reportedly informed them that no inmate bearing his name was in custody.

He said the prolonged uncertainty over Gospel’s whereabouts had a profound emotional impact on the family, adding that both their mother and father died without ever knowing what had happened to their son.

The family’s search came to an unexpected end when a lawyer conducting a routine visit to the prison noticed an inmate whose appearance matched descriptions of the missing teenager. Suspecting he could be the long-lost Gospel, the lawyer later returned to the facility with Paul Kinanee, who immediately recognised his younger brother.

By the time of the reunion, Gospel was 32 years old, having spent more than half of his life in detention.

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According to his family, the years of incarceration without trial, combined with prolonged isolation and harsh prison conditions, have left him with serious psychological and mental health challenges, making his rehabilitation a major concern.

Reports indicate that throughout his detention, Gospel was never formally tried before a court of law and was allegedly denied access to legal counsel, raising significant concerns over due process and the protection of fundamental human rights within Nigeria’s criminal justice system.Demographics

His freedom eventually came during a jail delivery exercise conducted by the Chief Judge of Rivers State, Justice Simeon Amadi, who reviewed the cases of inmates awaiting trial. Gospel was among 21 inmates ordered to be released during the exercise after it was discovered that they had been unlawfully or excessively detained.

The Kinanee family is now seeking substantial financial compensation and judicial accountability, arguing that the prolonged detention robbed Gospel of his childhood, education, opportunities and good health.

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They contend that the actions and alleged negligence of the relevant authorities caused irreversible damage to both Gospel and the entire family, which endured years of anguish while desperately searching for him.

The case has sparked renewed public concern over prolonged detention without trial in Nigeria and has intensified calls for comprehensive reforms aimed at preventing similar miscarriages of justice within the country’s criminal justice and correctional systems.

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